This utterance is just a confirmation of Romans 7:2-3 and also Jesus’ own words in Matthew.

Jesus says, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.  And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery, and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”

Why?  Because the marriage bond i.e., the One Flesh Union is a permanent bond that is only dissolvable but by death.  “What God hath joined together, let not man separate.” 

What about that exception?  Simple really.  The Word of God gives us the perfect example in Joseph and Mary.

Joseph and Mary were legally betrothed.  Mary was Joseph’s property i.e., his wife by Custom.  The Israelites were instructed that if the betrothed woman is not found to be a Virgin, the marriage is null and void – Deuteronomy 22:14.  When Israel was a homogeneous unit, the woman was stoned to death.  During the time of Jesus, it seems a certificate of divorce was a more civil option.  Joseph, being a righteous man, sought to put away Mary privately.  With Joseph and Mary, we have an example of a “Civil” marriage — one recognized by man.  This is an example of a Society defining marriage through civil law. It is understood that Joseph’s family made an agreement with Mary’s family and it was decided that Mary would be Joseph’s wife.  Mary, during this betrothal period, was considered Joseph’s wife. She was his. She was Joseph’s property in that he had legal authority over Mary contracted (Covenant) by both families. We know this because Joseph sought a divorce. What would he need a ‘writ of divorce’ for if he wasn’t married according to “Custom“?

Joseph was ‘civilly’ married i.e. tradition of man. But he was not yet joined as one flesh — which is a spiritual marriage. Sex creates either a righteous union; or an unrighteous union. This is an Important Point — Sex will either create a righteous union or an unrighteous union.

The instruction of marriage is actually very easy to understand.  The Scriptures are thorough in this regard.  One just has to love the Lord with all of their heart in order to accept it.  Jesus understood this — Matthew 19:11

Scripture clearly reveals: Sexual Intercourse is the vehicle by which two flesh become one. When a virgin girl has sexual intercourse with a man, she becomes ‘known’ by that man. She is ‘joined’ to the man as One Flesh. A Christian Society SHOULD recognize them ‘man and wife’. Society’s failure to understand them ‘man and wife’ is not the fault of God’s Natural Law.

Jacob and Rachel is a good example here. Jacob covenanted for Rachel. The “feast” was for Rachel. Leah ended up Jacob’s wife the following morning because he had sex with her. Rachel was not yet Jacob’s wife, even though Jacob and Laban made an Agreement.

Sex with a virgin woman = righteous union.
Sex with a married* woman = unrighteous union. *a woman joined/known by a man.

Dinah and Shechem is yet another example. Shechem and Dinah joined to one another as One Flesh. Dinah was ‘known’ by Shechem. Dinah was ‘joined’ to Shechem. But yet Dinah’s family did not recognize them ‘man and wife’ from a cultural or societal acceptance — Jacob’s tradition. But they understood Dinah was now “defiled”. Defiled meant that Dinah could not ever be with another man and it be righteous. So ‘death’ followed. Not surprisingly, ‘death’ often follows sex when it doesn’t fit society’s definition of marriage. David was King of Israel. Surely if he desired Bathsheba for a wife, he simply could have demanded it. Uriah had to die in order for the One Flesh Union to be severed.

In Summary: Sex is the vehicle by which two flesh becomes one.  Sexual Intercourse is the ‘marriage’ of two flesh into one.

Only virgin girls and widowed women can take a husband.

Why did Paul not remind the Corinthians of the proper procedures for a valid wedding?  Remind them to get permission from the father.  Remind them to get down on one knee and propose.  Remind them that the woman must say “I do” before the ring goes on the finger.  Remind them of the importance of “witnesses”.  How many ‘witnesses’ are required?  Remind them that both the man and the woman must say “I do” in order for a woman to be then bound by the law — Romans 7:2-3.

Why did not Paul review the proper procedures for a valid wedding?  Answer:  Because there are NONE!

Contemporary Christianity wants you to believe that Marriage is “something” followed by Sex.  But they can’t tell you what the “something” is.  “Adultery” and “Sexual Immorality” is very serious.  Both of these sins will thwart a man and woman’s entrance into the Kingdom of Heaven.  Surely “Marriage” has to be Absolute.  Marriage should never be Subjective.  If you have been taught, or if you believe that marriage is the combination of sexual intercourse and “something else”…………is not the ‘something else’ Subjective?  Please help me understand the “something else” if that is your firm belief.

“Marriage is a Covenant” you say.  Ok.  Define the Covenant.  What are the procedures for that Covenant?

Here is the cold hard truth:  When a girl opens her legs and receives the man, she has just “agreed” to be ‘one flesh’ with that man.  She is now joined to the man, whether she believes herself to be married or not.  The girl or man not being aware that they are now ‘married as one flesh’ is not the fault of God or His Word! Read — https://areyoumarried.wordpress.com/2011/02/13/keeping-in-mind-that-it-is-our-god-that-joins-the-couple-for-the-sake-of-the-child-in-every-instance-of-procreative-intercourse/

I have yet to find one Christian who would say that a woman is married following vows.  They ALWAYS admit that the marriage is only a marriage after they consummate the ceremony – have sex.  It is the sex that ultimately joins the couple, they say.

Historically, the tool of “Annulment” was created for this very reason i.e., a Ceremony/Agreement that does not end in consummation is considered “Annulled”.

But yet they don’t even flinch to consider a woman who is already joined to a man (not a virgin), eligible to be married to a different man.

They say, “A woman is joined by sex.  But a woman is not married by sex.  Unless the ‘I do’ comes first”.

Sex before “I do” = no marriage (although the couple are now one flesh)

Sex after “I do” = marriage.

“Sex” turns a woman into a wife and a man into a husband ONLY if a ceremony/agreement exists.  Otherwise….it was just sex.  Even though the woman is now ‘one flesh’ with the man.  The man ejaculates his DNA into the woman BUT only if an “I do” was said, are such a couple husband and wife.  A woman can receive a man’s seed and not be a wife as long as she doesn’t say “I do”.  A woman could have a baby with a man, but don’t call him a husband until they both say “I do”.

I could go on an on…………

This is all so convoluted.  The perfect example of deception.  2 Tim 4:3.

Please Read — God’s Natural Law of Marriage and the Erroneous Marriage Covenant

Sample:

When the church attempts to define Biblical marriage, an ill-perceived and ill-conceived concept is attached to it that is consistently and erroneously advocated by the church. That concept is the so-called “marriage covenant” (vows stated by the couple at their wedding), which is valid only by the presence of human witnesses. This farcical concept extolled by the church as a requirement for the existence and validation of a God approved marriage is preposterous and absolutely unbiblical…..

God’s Natural Law of Marriage and The ERRONEOUS Marriage Covenant

Edit 10/10/2020 — rather than make a new post, I will speak to “The Woman at the Well” here.  Of all the people who disagree with me, I would say that the most popular “get out of jail free card” (argument) they make is the woman at the well story.  Hosea and Gomer is another popular “get out of jail free card” but that issue is addressed on this blog.

The Woman at the Well (John 4) —

 Jesus said to her, “Go, call your husband, and come here.” The woman answered and said, “I have no husband.”

Jesus said to her, “You have well said, ‘I have no husband,’  for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; in that you spoke truly.”

First Question — Why is the current man not her husband?

Of course the common answer will be that ‘they didn’t have a ceremony/make an agreement’.

But this idea of “ceremony” has been thoroughly addressed here on this blog and logically, this cannot be the answer.  One must put themselves in 30 AD and understand the context of marriage as both a Civil Institution and what God deems to be a Righteous Marriage — “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” Heb 13:4

We must look to what the Scriptures say.  Paul, speaking to the Corinthians, exhorts the believers in Corinth that a woman is bound to her husband for the life of her husband —

“A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:39

In his letter to the Romans, we get a much more complete illustration —

“For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man.”

Back to the woman at the well………………..

First of all, we don’t have all the information we would need to confidently, or dogmatically determine exactly all that transpired with this woman.  Did her first husband die?  We do not know.  Did any of the other husbands die?  We do not know.  Was she handed a ‘bill of divorce’ and took a different husband?  We do not know.

My response or question to those who use this example as an excuse, is —

“Why does not Jesus recognize the current man to be a husband?”

I believe Romans 7:2-3 is the most logical and harmonious answer.  She is in violation of God’s marriage design.  In this moment, she is an adulteress.  She is at the moment ‘joined’ to a different man from the one she is currently living with.

Lastly………………if you believe the woman at the well could have a “Ceremony” and be properly married  —

Where are the procedures and rituals in the Scriptures required to have a proper marriage ceremony???  How would she have done that i.e., get married?

Back to square one — THERE ARE NO PROCEDURES AND RITUALS FOR A PROPER MARRIAGE CEREMONY.

Sex is the marriage of two flesh into one.

A girl/woman can only be “one flesh” with ONE man and it be righteous.

Please read the rest of the Blog.  The “comments” are very important as they address most of the questions you will have.

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