(and Divorce)

Did you know that a woman can only be “One Flesh” with ONE man at a time and the marriage bed be undefiled? Only a Virgin girl or a Widowed woman can “get married”.

Did you know that there is not ONE example of a non-virgin woman taking a husband and is considered Righteous, in the Scriptures?

Challenge —- Find me one example of a non-virgin woman or a non-widowed woman who takes a husband in some kind of Ceremony or Sacred Oath, and the Scriptures portray this marriage as a righteous union. A woman cannot be “One Flesh” with more than ONE man at the same time and the so called “marriage” be considered Righteous.

Should we not find this very, very important?

“Christians” just assume the bible is full of stories of non-virgin women taking a husband and all is right and just. Under the Law of Moses, it is “implied” that it happened (Deut 24), but in Matthew 19 — Jesus makes it very clear that this was NOT God’s Will. Deuteronomy 24 is NOT permission. The word “when” or “if” is a word that is added by the translator. It is not in the original.

The KJV translates Strong’s H1980 in the following manner: go (217x), walk (156x), come (16x), …away (7x), …along (6x), miscellaneous (98x).

The Verse should read — “And when she is departed out ^H3318 of his house, ^H1004 and leaves ^H1980  to be another ^H312 man’s ^H376 wife.”

Deuteronomy 24:2 — the Context is what should the husband do if he wants to take back his wife after she has departed from his house and becomes “one flesh” i.e., takes another man in marriage. The Instruction is — NO!

During the time of the Law of Moses — men did what men will do. Jesus called them “Stiff Necked”. Deut 24 is NOT permission for a woman to become “one flesh” with a second man while her first union is intact. Only Death will sever the One Flesh union.

Challenge — Find me ONE girl/woman in Scripture who is “one flesh” with more than 1 man at the same time and the Scriptures speak of her as being in a Righteous Union. There is not ONE. Tamar tore her robe of Virginity and remained desolate in her brother’s house. Why? Because she was INELIGIBLE (defiled) to have a husband because she was now a non-virgin. And not yet a widow. (2 Samuel 13)

That should prick your conscience (Soul).

Paul speaks to “Widows” in his letter to the Corinthians regarding marriage. Why “Widows”? It makes no sense; if “death” has nothing to do with how a marriage is made.

A girl/woman who is “one flesh” with a man is ineligible to be ceremonially/civilly married to a different man as long as the first “one flesh” marriage union is intact. Only DEATH will sever that original one flesh union.

But yet “Christianity” marries non-virgin women every week of the year.

Sexual Intercourse i.e., the Marriage of Two Flesh become One is a Natural Law. Like Fire is Hot. Jump in ice cold water and eventually you will die if you don’t get out and warm your body. Jump in a fire and you will burn to death. Restrict Oxygen to the brain and you will die. These are all Natural Laws.

“One Flesh” is a Natural Law. As “Grace” does not protect someone who jumps into a freezing lake expecting to be saved from the consequences; “Grace” does not ignore the One Flesh Union. Paul is very clear — only Death severs the One Flesh Union created through sexual intercourse. “Forgiveness” also does not magically erase the One Flesh Union. If true — Paul was wasting his time when he said that a joined woman can only remarry when the death of her man occurs — 1 Corinthians 7:39. Why speak to Widowhood? Why speak to Virgins? It makes no sense if either of those are insignificant. Paul speaks to Virgins and Widows but yet no one so far has been able to explain to me “Why”. They say — “It was required THEN, but not NOW.” “It was a cultural thing.”

We’ve come full Circle —- People say to me — “…. a non-virgin girl is joined to a man as one flesh but is not married.” So, then I ask — “Please tell me, HOW does one marry?”

This is when I get 10 different answers. All Subjective answers.

Sex before the Sacred Oath = SIN. Sex after the Sacred Oath = Marriage.

But yet 10 men can’t get their minds together and come up with the proper parameters i.e., proper rituals and procedures required for a “Sacred” oath. Not to mention — Jesus said “Do not make Oaths!”

When a girl allows a man to “go into her”, she is agreeing to be “One Flesh” with the man. This is the Covenant. Whether she is aware of this or not — is not God’s fault! It is MAN’s fault. “Men” have failed the Adamic Race. Not God. He gave us His Word — we ignored Him.

Note — Please do not use Gomer as a one example without first reading “God told Hosea to do what”? —https://areyoumarried.org/2025/10/11/god-told-hosea-to-do-what-by-edward-ridenour/ Or —  https://areyoumarried.wordpress.com/2017/12/01/god-told-hosea-to-do-what/

— Divorce —

Divorce. What is it?

Where in the Scriptures are the Proper Procedures and Rituals Required for Divorce? And WHO would one go to, to make all this happen? A Lawyer? A Pastor? How do they divinely acquire this power?

Most people will think I am crazy asking because of the Decades of Brainwashing on this topic. But “Divorce” is a Man-Made Instrument. It does NOT occur in Nature. It is not a Natural Law. “Death” is a natural law.

A quick internet search brought up this — “…Early divorce laws — The oldest codified divorce law dates back to 1760 BC, when King Hammurabi of Babylon carved 282 laws into stone tablets. In the ancient Roman Republic, a simple statement of intent to divorce was enough to dissolve a marriage….”.

Colonial and 18th century America — In the 17th century, many colonies created judicial tribunals to hear divorce cases. Adultery was a common reason for divorce….”

Man’s Laws Vs. God’s Laws. This is the Question we should be asking.

A quick Etymological explanation of the word Divorce reveals this — “…Where did the word divorce come from?
History of Divorce, Origins and Meaning — “Divorce” comes from the Latin word “divortium” which means separation. It is also equivalent to the word “divort” or “divortere.” “Di” means apart and “vertere” means to turn to different ways. Divertere was also referred the meaning of divert, turn aside, separate or leave…”

In the Scriptures — the Hebrew Word and Greek Word are either translated in one of two ways — Divorce or To Put Away. I believe the most consistent definition should be simple — “to Walk Away From”. Because this is all that it is. But “Man” has given it a definition and rules.

Jesus said — “…They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?” He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, BUT FROM THE BEGINNING IT WAS NOT SO. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”

BUT FROM THE BEGINNING IT WAS NOT SO. This is the Key right there. The beginning. The beginning of what? Answer — Life. This is why I say “Divorce” does not exist in Nature. Adam and Eve were married BECAUSE they were joined as One Flesh through the act of sexual intercourse. Eve was then bound to Adam as One Flesh for as long as Adam was alive. If Adam were to have “walked away” from Eve, that would be what we consider “Divorce”. This is all it is. It is a Man-Made Instrument.

When a virgin girl has sexual intercourse with a man, she becomes Joined to this man for the LIFE of the man. That is God’s Natural Law. If a man “walks away” from a woman who he is One Flesh with —- they are still joined as One Flesh and that union will last until the death of the man. This is God’s Natural Law of Marriage. However, a man cannot “walk away from” a Righteous one flesh union except for “fornication” — Matthew 19. He would be subject to God’s Natural Law of Romans 7:2-3.

In the Scriptures — during the Administration of the Israelite Economy i.e. the Law of Moses, judicated by the Levitical Priesthood — “Divorce” was a Man-made instrument of dissolving “Legal” obligations legislated by MAN. Jesus said “Moses Permitted it”, but from the beginning, such a thing did not exist.

We have ONE passage which explains the PURPOSE of such a practice — Deuteronomy 22:14 — “….. and says, ‘I took this woman, and when I came to her I found she was not a virgin …..”.

When the man discovers that his “bride to be” was not a Virgin — then a Righteous One Flesh Union did not occur. It could not occur. Why? Because the girl/woman is ALREADY One Flesh with another man. Such is a Defilement of the Flesh — 1 Corinthians 6:16. A woman can only be One Flesh with ONE man at the same time.

During the Israelite Administration, they created a Ritual of “Betrothal” in regards to the Joining of Man and Woman i.e., Marriage. The Scriptures are vague as to what exactly “Betrothal” was. We have to speculate and make educated guesses. The best explanation that I can deduce — “Betrothal” was a ritual or procedure for legislating a marriage between two families — Civil Law. I wrote about Betrothal in my article — “When” under the Comment Section. It is the first and second comment.

Bottom Line — Betrothal was a Man-Made Instrument — Civil Law. There is nothing wrong with “man” creating traditions, customs and rituals. Nothing. However, these rituals, customs and traditions MUST be in Harmony with God’s Character and His Will. In the case of Joseph seeking a Divorce — I’m convinced this was about the “Betrothal Contract/Covenant” that was created by his father and Mary’s father i.e., Return the Dowry etc. Get out of his “obligations” as a civil husband.

Then we have another passage which mentions “Divorce” or “to Put Away” in Deuteronomy 24. However, the “Context” is what should the husband do if he desires his wife back after he has sent her away to have sexual intercourse with another man. That is the Context. “Permission” is NEVER mentioned in that passage. Deuteronomy 24 has DECEIVED Generations of “Christians”.

In Summary — DIVORCE is not God’s Natural Law. God NEVER intended for a Righteous One Flesh Union to be dissolved through Civil Law i.e., Man-Made Law. God’s Natural Law is DEATH. Only in DEATH can the woman take a second husband in Civil Marriage i.e., Ceremonial Marriage. Only in death can a woman become One Flesh with a different man.

“Divorce” did happen in the Old Testament — Israelite men “put away” their wives for various reasons. Moses permitted such and Jesus rebuked him for it.

The ONLY acceptable “Divorce” would be Deuteronomy 22:14. During the Israelite Economy, they simply STONED the woman. Jesus most certainly would not permit that today. Joseph recognized the Barbarity of such an act and sought to put Mary away Privately.

Bottom Line —- A girl/woman can ONLY be One Flesh with ONE man at a time and that union be Righteous.

Prove me wrong. Find me ONE woman in the Scriptures who is One Flesh with more than one man at the same time and the Scriptures describe this woman as righteous. It doesn’t exist. You can only FORCE it by insisting Gomer was not a virgin upon her marriage to Hosea.

The Irony here is even I were to concede that Gomer was not a Virgin —- God FORCED Hosea to take her as a wife.